MonkeyZero
Mexican Mayonnaise Weiner Sandwich
18 days sober!!!
Mental health check-in
- Thread starter Flamencology
- Start date
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
Nice! Glad for you.
My friend is still in her treatment and also is staying in which is good, and is just a day behind you in terms of days now. And looking forward to a stepped down aftercare program after that, along with therapy for all the underlying stuff, and taking it very seriously. Which is all very good.
I am continuing to work on modernized al-anon stuff, and just general 12 step stuff, as part of my re-booting post marriage. And finding good NA options to move toward as even though I am not addicted, it doesn't hurt me to reduce alcohol and at my age, I am finding I don't care for the effects on my older body anyway. I can still have a glass or two of whatever, but then am moving on toward NA stuff rather than follow my friends along with their consumption over the night, etc. Just feels better.
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PunkKitty
Horny bag of electric meat
Not doing great. My therapist had to drop me because of my insurance. That REALLY sucks. I thought I had finally found a true trauma therapist that is LGBT+ informed. Well, I did. It will just cost me $250 a week to keep seeing her. Trauma therapists are hard to find. Most therapists know the basics. My case is way beyond that. I have a history of trauma going back to childhood. I wasn't able to find more than 20 in the Chicago area. Most are cash only. And few are LGBT+ knowledgeable. I feel like I've been thrown to the wolves. I'm avoiding alcohol and substances. That will only make me feel worse.
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
Mojo!
Motorik
Kick Henry Jackassowski
Really sorry to hear that. Mojo sent.
MonkeyZero
Mexican Mayonnaise Weiner Sandwich
Mojo. Insurance sucks.
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
The health care/insurance/disability etc. system in this country sucks and to me is criminal and inhumane. Basically, anyone without the mental, emotional and financial resources to stand up for themselves within said system is screwed. Criminal.
That is all.
That is all.
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
On hold right now with the short term disability carrier for my friend. I am a gawdamned lawyer (not my field, but still...) and this is difficult. Sitting here on hold being dunned by recorded messages about returning to work and the benefits of returning work and other similar messages to guilt people into to slavery to capitalism rather than their health, along with the general difficulty and runaround to get forms and records and releases and applications all just so. Designed to defeat claims of course. Criminal.
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
I am currently studying myself and attachment style stuff (stuff to figure out as I exit marriage and start to engage in new relationships, and perhaps reframe or attempt to repair existing ones), along with figuring out some update on tradition Al-anon stuff that, at least as expressed here locally, can get a little too judgy and punitive and possibly imbued with a little too much religiosity and/or comparative ritual shit. What I am looking for is how to support someone recovering with real love and compassion, along with having appropriate and healthy loving boundaries that protect one's self. So one doesn't go out and drown trying to help another, by way of analogy. (or is that a metaphor? I can never remember).
The Smart Recovery family book has some ideas, and I am doing some of my own thinking. Right now, it feels like approaching someone with love and compassion rather than judgment, and no ultimatums, but having a line or boundary so one does not get sucked dry or pulled under. So if I am not playing guitar (or at least if the relationship is interfering with that unduly), not exercising, not staying connected to important people in my life or other responsibilities, those are the indications things are out of balance.
My friend is continuing to do well, and is concerned about discharge date and trying to prepare differently from previous sobriety attempts (she did have 12 years at one point but the last few/several have been pretty rough with some failed attempts) and I want to be of support, but not controlling nor enabling. Working on that balance.
And one really good way to do that is to work on my own shit and responsibilities and self care.
The Smart Recovery family book has some ideas, and I am doing some of my own thinking. Right now, it feels like approaching someone with love and compassion rather than judgment, and no ultimatums, but having a line or boundary so one does not get sucked dry or pulled under. So if I am not playing guitar (or at least if the relationship is interfering with that unduly), not exercising, not staying connected to important people in my life or other responsibilities, those are the indications things are out of balance.
My friend is continuing to do well, and is concerned about discharge date and trying to prepare differently from previous sobriety attempts (she did have 12 years at one point but the last few/several have been pretty rough with some failed attempts) and I want to be of support, but not controlling nor enabling. Working on that balance.
And one really good way to do that is to work on my own shit and responsibilities and self care.
Flamencology
You don't deserve koa.
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
Mojo
MonkeyZero
Mexican Mayonnaise Weiner Sandwich
35 days sober today! Thought I'd bring something positive to the thread although please send mojo for my wife as her mom is declining pretty rapidly and we found out she has been sending gift cards to a guy who she thinks is a famous Korean actor. 
She's 86 and her mental decline is not good. When approached about the situation she gets VERY defensive and threatens to remove people from the will. It's sad to see.
She's 86 and her mental decline is not good. When approached about the situation she gets VERY defensive and threatens to remove people from the will. It's sad to see.
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
Mojo! And congrats on the 35 days!
I figure you folks can use a chuckle. My 99 year old mother was in the hospital recently. The doctor came in and seeing her age, said "Wow, how how did you stay healthy for so long?" She replied "By staying away from doctors."
Mojo AND congrats.35 days sober today! Thought I'd bring something positive to the thread although please send mojo for my wife as her mom is declining pretty rapidly and we found out she has been sending gift cards to a guy who she thinks is a famous Korean actor.
She's 86 and her mental decline is not good. When approached about the situation she gets VERY defensive and threatens to remove people from the will. It's sad to see.
bsman
b00b
Spring and girls' HS soccer season is over. I went from doing about 80-150 games a year to having had 13 games this spring. I'll work the fall season - at least boys' high school - but I just don't know if it's worth my time to get relicensed for next year. Refereeing has been a huge part of my life for the past 30 years, but I unless I can resolve my vision issues I don't know if it's fair to me or the kids to continue. It's a shame, because I can still run and position myself - but I spend most of the time out on the pitch with one eye closed, which obviously makes it harder to be be a good referee.
Tig
Fucktangular
I've realized how addicting social media is.
Saturday, Facebook suspended my account with a message about a picture posted in July, 2021. It didn't even show the picture. I requested a review of the suspension, but I doubt it will help. What sucks is I have no way of telling friends why I dropped off the radar.
While I despise the toxicity of FB, it has become a good way of keeping in touch with family and friends scattered across the globe.
Edit: This is the image I used as an example of the dangers of religious-political extremism, which was perceived by FB as hate speech.
Saturday, Facebook suspended my account with a message about a picture posted in July, 2021. It didn't even show the picture. I requested a review of the suspension, but I doubt it will help. What sucks is I have no way of telling friends why I dropped off the radar.
While I despise the toxicity of FB, it has become a good way of keeping in touch with family and friends scattered across the globe.
Edit: This is the image I used as an example of the dangers of religious-political extremism, which was perceived by FB as hate speech.
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sunvalleylaw
Yep.
Fuck. submitted two home loan apps (to different lenders to shop), am meeting with a listing agent for our house tomorrow, and looking at potential homes to purchase this afternoon. Shit is getting real. Kids are all home, and not that stoked on that the house is going to go, and I am not either. But too much house in terms of size and money for a 60 year old single guy. Oh well. Send it!!
sunvalleylaw
Yep.
"I don't know. Just woke up from a little nap, a little dark, but you guys' silly? I'm still gonna send it!"