Mental health check-in

Keep plugging on Sunvalleylaw we're rooting for you.

I'm in a pretty good place. Work has helped things feel normal but I've slacked off on the p90x since going back. Getting plenty of walks in with Lola but i need to get back on the weights.
 
jbj said:
Keep plugging on Sunvalleylaw we're rooting for you.

I'm in a pretty good place. Work has helped things feel normal but I've slacked off on the p90x since going back. Getting plenty of walks in with Lola but i need to get back on the weights.
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If it wasn’t hard, I would fear we weren’t digging deeply enough. So hard is ok. We are so far still moving forward and working on it together.
 
Human Beings went from wanderers and explorers to this....

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I tell ya what, having thick fire smoke obscuring the sun, and making it so you can't get out and work off your stress is not helpful. There was an article in the Seattle Times about the impact of the smoke on mental health. We right now are at a yellow level, which is considered moderate, down from red, which is unhealthy for most people. And actually, having the visibility that even yellow provides lightens the mood and makes it seem less apocalyptic, though I am not sure, with all the smoke that has been around, that I want to rush right out and ride my bike hard. I have never been in "purple" conditions such as are around the Seattle area and Portland, etc. right now. Bleh! Some weather is supposed to be coming, and hopefully it will help.
 
sunvalleylaw said:
I tell ya what, having thick fire smoke obscuring the sun, and making it so you can't get out and work off your stress is not helpful. There was an article in the Seattle Times about the impact of the smoke on mental health. We right now are at a yellow level, which is considered moderate, down from red, which is unhealthy for most people. And actually, having the visibility that even yellow provides lightens the mood and makes it seem less apocalyptic, though I am not sure, with all the smoke that has been around, that I want to rush right out and ride my bike hard. I have never been in "purple" conditions such as are around the Seattle area and Portland, etc. right now. Bleh! Some weather is supposed to be coming, and hopefully it will help.
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Except for the occasional trip to the grocery store, I’ve been inside for weeks. There’s a small chance the smoke will lift this week. I’m not hopeful.
 
Help!I'maRock! said:
Except for the occasional trip to the grocery store, I’ve been inside for weeks. There’s a small chance the smoke will lift this week. I’m not hopeful.
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I've still walked the dog every day and managed some rides when things were better (I just remind myself that I bought time since I quit smoking 35 years ago :grin:). Since we are very near the coast we have occasionally gotten good days. Actually the worst looking day (last Wed) was ok since all the smoke was above 2000'. But that has changed and we have spent a lot of the last 5 days inside with unhealthy (red) to very unhealthy conditions (purple). Far worst is further north so we are hoping it will be better in a week when we head up. Roseburg Or has been hazardous conditions for the last 3 days...:eek:. The good news is there is supposed to be cooler conditions all week and rain in Washington and Oregon which hopefully will help. However all the smoke for the last few days has blown out over the ocean so we getting it coming and going
 
Feeling more optimistic today than before with our efforts to work on our marriage. Last week at counseling, I was able to speak my mind on things that bothered me, and to feel that both the counselor and Gwen recognized them. And though that was a little tough, and Gwen looked a little uncomfortable with what was said, we got through it.

And it seemed that having done that cleared the air that much more, and that we have continued to work on things, practical and otherwise, that we agreed to, to make things better.

Today is our 26th wedding anniversary, and it was the best feeling I have had as I wrote out a card this morning in years. It just felt more genuine. So though clearly not perfect, progress. And that means a lot. It is possible we end up not staying together, but things are better.
 
sunvalleylaw said:
Feeling more optimistic today than before with our efforts to work on our marriage. Last week at counseling, I was able to speak my mind on things that bothered me, and to feel that both the counselor and Gwen recognized them. And though that was a little tough, and Gwen looked a little uncomfortable with what was said, we got through it.

And it seemed that having done that cleared the air that much more, and that we have continued to work on things, practical and otherwise, that we agreed to, to make things better.

Today is our 26th wedding anniversary, and it was the best feeling I have had as I wrote out a card this morning in years. It just felt more genuine. So though clearly not perfect, progress. And that means a lot. It is possible we end up not staying together, but things are better.
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Happy Anniversary!
 
Due to the horrendous air quality from the wildfires, we haven’t had any deliveries or trash pickup over the past week. So many things are closed. The soot coming into the house with all the doors and windows closed is pretty crazy. We’re running the furnace fan to turn the air over and pull it through the furnace filter. The few distractions of going outside and enjoying outdoor activities are on hold. It’s a real drag but grateful that we’re not dealing with the actual fires and destruction that so many other have been.
 
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I have had some ups and downs, but seem to be moving through them. Super nervous about next week. My voting voice has been heard, or at least registered, already. So now it is wait.

This came in from my second cousin, who comes from a very artistic and musical and intelligent family, people who might be subject to bullying or scorn from meatheads. She wrote this for all of us for whom this has been a scary time. Thanks, Marian.

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Ok, so...we had another event. 2020 can straight up fuck off. I really wish I could give details bc I need help. I am not managing this well and it just keeps getting worse. The 2 worst possible things that could happen in my line of work have happened in 3 days. I'm absolutely losing my shit.
I was able to pull it together to trick or treat with my kids but now I'm home, while my wife is at work sorting through this mess and I am lost. Fuck.
 
MonkeyZero said:
Ok, so...we had another event. 2020 can straight up fuck off. I really wish I could give details bc I need help. I am not managing this well and it just keeps getting worse. The 2 worst possible things that could happen in my line of work have happened in 3 days. I'm absolutely losing my shit.
I was able to pull it together to trick or treat with my kids but now I'm home, while my wife is at work sorting through this mess and I am lost. Fuck.
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Mojo.
 
Mojo MonkeyZero. Maybe try some mindfulness or guided breathing on YT. Not a long term fix but quite good for getting you thinking about something else there and then.
 
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