Mental health check-in

Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.
 
Good idea.

Worked all day yesterday on making sure a guardianship I had put together on an emergency basis for a mentally ill man was honored by health care, such that we could get a bed for him somewhere for some help, and after a lot of arguing, bitching and threats to can the guardianship if the state would not help the parents enforce their legal authority to prevent him from running (basically, get the cops to make sure he stays put while we waited for a bed and transportation to be arranged) and make the state deal with it. I was running up against the state’s position of no involuntary commitment if there is a guardianship, a mentally ill man who will say the right thing in one moment, but then run off, to go commit some more crimes (he is currently facing a felony, and multiple misdemeanors for acts committed while he was off his meds) and get further down in a hole, while drunk and off his meds, but police who don’t want to do anything as they are tired of him and he hadn’t really hurt anyone, yet. My point was if the parents cannot get assistance from the state to enforce their legal authority to make sure he makes it to doctor prescribed treatment that the guardian agrees with, then why should the parents spend money to do all that? If the only way to get police assistance is to have it be part of an involuntary commitment process (one of which briefly started up yesterday before they realized there was a guardianship) then I guess even though it would seem better for the parents/guardians to be in place to arrange some help for the man, in the long run it is not if they cannot get the authority of law to enforce the plan. So therefore, may as well let the State deal with it, and then the cops can be required to be involved. After some conversations with the prosecutor’s office, the officers were convinced to stay. I was feeling pretty ACAB after that. Like why should I have to tattle on the cops to the prosecutors to get some help for these people? These cops know this guy, and know they would be dealing with him pretty soon again anyway. So why not just station a couple of guys there for a few hours to make sure he doesn’t run off in his hospital garb down to the willows down by the river and create a dangerous chase situation and instead make sure that he gets to his treatment? Too proactive or something? There is a legal order of guardianship providing authority.

But got a nice little easy spin around on my gravel bike, on the roads down by the river, looking at the sun go down and feeling the air currents as things cooled down, and that helped calm me down. Bikes are a good thing. Outside, water, the smell of earth, and evening light is nice too.

You're a good man mate.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.

Mojo man. In a small way I'm glad that's what they wanted but hang in there.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.

Shocking, bro. Prayers.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.
Mojo
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.

Sorry Man
 
They were 91 and 92 and over the past couple of months weren't having a very good time, so it really is for the best. We've been expecting this since last November - when they went into hospice care.

While it can be a relief in many ways, it's still sad. All the best to you and your extended family during this.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.
Sorry for your loss.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.
I'm so sorry. Much mojo.
 
They were 91 and 92 and over the past couple of months weren't having a very good time, so it really is for the best. We've been expecting this since last November - when they went into hospice care.
That's how my mom was towards the end. She had dementia and parkinson's, so she couldn't walk and didn't know who we were. She couldn't even eat by herself. We had to feed her. She was 92 when she passed.
 
That's how my mom was towards the end. She had dementia and parkinson's, so she couldn't walk and didn't know who we were. She couldn't even eat by herself. We had to feed her. She was 92 when she passed.

That was my Dad's age - Mom was a year younger. Neither of them had dementia until the very end, and it was likely due to the high-level of morphine, etc. they (particularly mom) had been on. I was able to have mostly daily calls with them until three weeks ago and with dad until shortly after that.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.
Really, really sorry for you to experience those losses so close together. As I said on FB, it is a sweet story, and glad for them they got to spend their adult lives pretty much completely together, but still very hard for you and your family. Sending love.
 
Well, my mom died Monday afternoon and my dad yesterday afternoon (about 24 hours apart). It's really what they wanted, and is rather a relief for my sister and I. Of course, she now has to settle their estate and since I'm stuck here - 2000 miles away there's not much I can offer save moral support. My son and I are contemplating a roadtrip back to Madison as soon as it becomes viable.

Sorry to hear. Mojo and condolences.
 
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