Mental health check-in

[PunkKitty]

Thanks to property taxes going up 25% this year and an increase in my homeowner insurance, my mortgage payment is going up by over $300. I have no idea where I'm going to get the money. I may be forced to sell and rent an apartment. This is not good at all.

 

[jbj]

My twin bro has been struggling recently and it's come to a head. He seems in a better place just now but it's early days and any mojo you can spare would be appreciated.

In addition to this we're still having a total shit show with utilities to the house which is now looking like we're on the hook for a massive bill and I had quite the day in work dealing with parent to the point I had a hankering for a fag for most of the day. I don't smoke and have had 1 packet of fags in my entire life almost 20 years ago but very very very rarely my brain will tell me - a cigarette would be really nice just now, just what you need.

I went for a walk after work to get some air / stretch my legs and with the full intention of buying some cigarettes. Bumped into a pal and grabbed a quick beer, had a rant and thought better if it.

We go again tomorrow.

 

[mongooz]

My twin bro has been struggling recently and it's come to a head. He seems in a better place just now but it's early days and any mojo you can spare would be appreciated.

In addition to this we're still having a total shit show with utilities to the house which is now looking like we're on the hook for a massive bill and I had quite the day in work dealing with parent to the point I had a hankering for a fag for most of the day. I don't smoke and have had 1 packet of fags in my entire life almost 20 years ago but very very very rarely my brain will tell me - a cigarette would be really nice just now, just what you need.

I went for a walk after work to get some air / stretch my legs and with the full intention of buying some cigarettes. Bumped into a pal and grabbed a quick beer, had a rant and thought better if it.

We go again tomorrow.

MAJOR MOJO

 

[sunvalleylaw]

Mojo!

 

[PunkKitty]

Mojo to all!

 

[mnewb1]

Mojo, Man!

 

[Lerxst]

mojo, brojo

 

[jbj]

Thanks guys it's all good. Just to clarify, my brother wasn't suicidal or anything, just a lot of things piling up at once and it's all got a bit much. He does seem to have a weight off his shoulders - no one has died, no one is going to jail and there's no major or long lasting damage done as far as I can see. I wish I'd spoke to him a few weeks ago because I had an idea that he was struggling - would he have listened, I dunno, he said he was going to call me but didn't either because "he doesn't do all that talking about feelings shit." so who knows.

Work has been fine. It was just a really shitty set of circumstances fell into place at the worst possible time on Tuesday that managed to fuck me off - I think I just had a weird adrenaline dump or something that made me want the fags. Apart from that everything is going really well. I'm still 'acting up' as is the nomenclature and I don't have a clue what is actually happening on that front as the person I'm doing it for has now officially retired but a colleague, who I really respect, asked me about the job today and when I said I wasn't sure she said: "It's your job, you're great at it." which was nice.

Anyway after a month or so of being picked about, all of a sudden our major kitchen Reno is starting on Monday so I've got an evening of smashing shit up in the garage to clear some space to relieve some stress.

 

[GilmourD]

So, while this may be less mental health and more physical health, I'm headed into the operating room for the very first time in my almost 45 years to have neck surgery (cervical fusion of C5, C6, and C7). I'm half calm and half bugged out. It's like I know factually that this is a routine surgery and I have two excellent doctors performing it, but I've also never had surgery and it's a gigantic unknown to me.

 

[bsman]

So, while this may be less mental health and more physical health, I'm headed into the operating room for the very first time in my almost 45 years to have neck surgery (cervical fusion of C5, C6, and C7). I'm half calm and half bugged out. It's like I know factually that this is a routine surgery and I have two excellent doctors performing it, but I've also never had surgery and it's a gigantic unknown to me.

Good luck on the surgery. Watch out for the anesthesia - that's what fucked me up...

 

[PunkKitty]

So, while this may be less mental health and more physical health, I'm headed into the operating room for the very first time in my almost 45 years to have neck surgery (cervical fusion of C5, C6, and C7). I'm half calm and half bugged out. It's like I know factually that this is a routine surgery and I have two excellent doctors performing it, but I've also never had surgery and it's a gigantic unknown to me.

Mojo

 

[mnewb1]

So, while this may be less mental health and more physical health, I'm headed into the operating room for the very first time in my almost 45 years to have neck surgery (cervical fusion of C5, C6, and C7). I'm half calm and half bugged out. It's like I know factually that this is a routine surgery and I have two excellent doctors performing it, but I've also never had surgery and it's a gigantic unknown to me.

Mojo Man, blessing the hands of those surgeons!

 

[sunvalleylaw]

So, while this may be less mental health and more physical health, I'm headed into the operating room for the very first time in my almost 45 years to have neck surgery (cervical fusion of C5, C6, and C7). I'm half calm and half bugged out. It's like I know factually that this is a routine surgery and I have two excellent doctors performing it, but I've also never had surgery and it's a gigantic unknown to me.

Mojo!!!

 

[jbj]

Bit of a weird one in work today that's got my back up. AITA? I suppose.

Long story short I'm called round as 2 female staff don't feel safe with Kid X who has a history of hurting (hospitalising, leaving long term injuries and PTSD like symptoms) as he's being erratic.

Adding more bodies won't help as it gives him more targets and takes staff away from other pupils who can themselves become heightened and aggressive.

I, in my naivety I suppose, asked if they'd like me to swap them out for male members of staff - purely from a safeguarding point of view. They are more likely to be injured. I don't want it happened to anyone on my watch but it's a bit more palatable if it was to be myself or another male as far as I'm concerned.

They did not take this well and said I'm a chauvinist, questioning their ability to do the job. Nothing could be further from the truth, if they don't feel safe I'm offering the solution I think will make them feel safe...

I apologised which they accepted and said there'd been other comments or stuff said before by other members of staff but it's not sat right with me all day.

I know I can't gatekeep if my words or actions do or don't offend but I feel they were being a bit harsh when I was genuinely trying to help.


On the flip side, the kitchen is finally done and it's totally transformed the house. We've already done so much to it but this was the big 1 year in job we had targeted and to get it over the line feels brilliant so that's put me in a great mood all week.

 

[Lerxst]

So, while this may be less mental health and more physical health, I'm headed into the operating room for the very first time in my almost 45 years to have neck surgery (cervical fusion of C5, C6, and C7). I'm half calm and half bugged out. It's like I know factually that this is a routine surgery and I have two excellent doctors performing it, but I've also never had surgery and it's a gigantic unknown to me.

Mojo

I'm now facing something like that too...my first real surgical procedure in the not so distant future and it's tripping me out a bit. Turns out I have ripped my left hip apart and it looks like there's no long term solution besides replacement. Timing isn't great cause I'm too young for this to be a once and done replacement so I have another go-round to look forward to when I'm older. It sucks but at least I'll be putting a few years of hip & leg pain in the rearview mirror soonish.

 

[sunvalleylaw]

Mojo

I'm now facing something like that too...my first real surgical procedure in the not so distant future and it's tripping me out a bit. Turns out I have ripped my left hip apart and it looks like there's no long term solution besides replacement. Timing isn't great cause I'm too young for this to be a once and done replacement so I have another go-round to look forward to when I'm older. It sucks but at least I'll be putting a few years of hip & leg pain in the rearview mirror soonish.

Yeah, I guess having to do it twice is not ideal and sorry you have to do that. Mojo. BUT, there are more than one top end athletes here in the Sun Valley area who have had multiple hips and stay at the top of their game. Knees too. Good luck on the surgery!

 

[Lerxst]

Yeah, I guess having to do it twice is not ideal and sorry you have to do that. Mojo. BUT, there are more than one top end athletes here in the Sun Valley area who have had multiple hips and stay at the top of their game. Knees too. Good luck on the surgery!

Thanks!
The core issue right now is a pretty badly torn labrum. The hard thing to wrap my head around was that full replacement seems like a nuclear option for something that could potentially be repaired w/ arthroscopic surgery. In talking to a few specialists, seems repairs are a more narrow use-case solution. The recovery process is longer and the outcome far less predictable. Due to a life time of action sports stuff, there's some other damage that takes the repair off the table. Let's not talk about knees

The other entirely self-conscious aspect is having to think about getting a procedure typically seen as something only wizened senior citizens get.

 

[GilmourD]

Mojo

I'm now facing something like that too...my first real surgical procedure in the not so distant future and it's tripping me out a bit. Turns out I have ripped my left hip apart and it looks like there's no long term solution besides replacement. Timing isn't great cause I'm too young for this to be a once and done replacement so I have another go-round to look forward to when I'm older. It sucks but at least I'll be putting a few years of hip & leg pain in the rearview mirror soonish.

Well, if it eases your mind at all, I'm back on the other side feeling much better than I did before surgery. My body's still going "WTF!?" and running through a lot of fuel healing me instead of keeping me going all day, but I can actually turn my neck without extreme pain and my upper arm muscles now work again!

Just make sure you get multiple opinions, especially since you've never had surgery before.

 

[Dudeman1967]

This is prolly the place for this one.

Anyone who has suffered depression/anxiety knows the horrors of regrets. Fucking regrets! I had very severe dep/anx for one entire year before I found the correct drug about ten years ago.

My youngest of two sons has a radio show on his college radio station. I listen every time he is on by internet. Never missed a show in three semesters until two weeks ago. Fuck!

Not just any show I missed but a show dedicated to me. Double Fuck!

He played nothing but songs by bands that I turned him on to. He spoke of the concerts I took him to since he was six. He spoke of the times we went to the St Louis Symphony. He recalled the time we had shitty seats (for two songs) to Rush and ended up front.

He told me he loved me and played "the Garden" by Rush to finish to show. Triple Fuck! A song about how it takes a long time to nurture your reputation and only seconds to ruin it.

His show is at 100pm so he doesn't have to worry about FCC BS about language in the songs he plays. His show is for heavey metal nuts. I didn't sleep a wink the night before for no particular reason. I was fighting to stay awake for his show. I went to kiss the wife goodnight an hour before his show. I decided to lay next to her for a second and of course I fell asleep. He sent me a couple texted just before the show but my phone was in my office so I didn't hear it. I woke in a panic at about two in the morning. I texted, then called him at 20. He didn't seem too upset. My voice was quivering I was so upset at myself. I said I was so sorry and he seemed ok with it.

I started having anxiety effects. My head and neck were cold sweatng. I had a "vibration" throughout my body. I haven't had these symptoms in years. I went to sleep only because I hadn't slept the night before.

He called me the next day to see how I was doing. He could tell how upset I was. He reassured me he was not upset with me and went through his whole show as to what he played and what he said. We hung up as close as ever.

Fuck yes!

 

[Lerxst]

Just make sure you get multiple opinions, especially since you've never had surgery before.

Yeah, all roads are pointing in this direction and full replacement is in my future.
First shot was supposed to be this past Monday but there was some confusion and I showed up at the wrong office so now it's this Friday.

Kinda bummed because Im looking forward to doing dumb stuff again ASAP.