Same.I know you don't post for the mojos, but mojo anyway.
Mojo @Denverdave
Hopefully she'll eventually come around, in the meantime do your best to not let it bother you.
This is great.“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.” - Mark Twain
Mojo @Denverdave
You're a step ahead of a lot of people already understanding that you can't change her mindset (at this point) so need to change your own.
Hopefully she'll eventually come around, in the meantime do your best to not let it bother you.
I'd like to hope your wife is advocating for you to the kid.
She is getting worse if anything, but she is slowly adding the rest of the family to the 'treat like crap' list. Interesting twist on this - last week my wife talked to her about how poorly she treats us, and me in particular. She asked if she treated her friends that way. Her response ' "Oh no, they are my second family, I could never treat them that way". But she treats her first family that way. Very 14 year old answer. But interesting insight - this is exactly how her Dad operates.
That's the long and short of it. I have no kids of my own but I'm not that far away from hitting 20 years of teaching high school. Give me boy over girl teenagers every single time.
Agreed - though my own daughter actually navigated her teen years fairly well. Along with a bad example from her Dad my step-daughter is steeped in way too much social media crap. That definitely does not help.
and all of this is still true and has grown well beyond where we were when I posted this.So update. A bit syrup-y sweet. But nice.
I started seeing someone in July and she is turning out to be pretty damn awesome. We are hanging out quite a bit despite distance between Boise and the SV area (about 2.5 hours drive). I come down here to Boise often during the week, and she comes up to Hailey often on weekends. Will get challenging during ski season and I will drive a lot. She is pretty darned accomplished and is on the executive team of the Idaho Transportation Department basically in charge of their communications and public affairs and the director really leans on her as his number one at times. Gets stuff done in a hard political climate. Former Boise news anchor. Divorced several years and practical with her feet on the ground and at the same time very loving. Hoping to take this a step at a time and that this will grow and go the distance.
So yeah, I am in a good mood a lot, despite working through final stuff on divorce and trying to get our house sold.
Ok, sappy photos set forth below.
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No advice or anything to give, but congrats on not drinking and hoping you find the right new balance for your body in terms of blood sugar, etc.Been dealing with the aftermath of quitting drinking. It's 9 months today actually. I've lost 40 pounds and I'm starving but I have developed some weird repulsion to food. It's not all the time, only when I really need to eat something. I feel so awful that I can't bring the fork to my mouth. The bad part is I don't realize it until I already feel bad and the only thing that will make that better is eating which I am struggling with. I have a doctor's appointment Thursday to do more bloodwork (I had it done 30 days in and everything was fine, as usual. I think it's most likely a sugar issue because I just don't eat regularly. I really never have, even before I started drinking. So this is fun.
I am trying to eat something small (4 or 5 bites) at least every hour but I am terrible at it. I'm just not hungry but my body is starving. I WANT to eat and feel better but it's making me nauseous. Yes, I tried cannabis for appetite. I quit getting the munchies from that back when I was a teenager.
Been dealing with the aftermath of quitting drinking. It's 9 months today actually. I've lost 40 pounds and I'm starving but I have developed some weird repulsion to food. It's not all the time, only when I really need to eat something. I feel so awful that I can't bring the fork to my mouth. The bad part is I don't realize it until I already feel bad and the only thing that will make that better is eating which I am struggling with. I have a doctor's appointment Thursday to do more bloodwork (I had it done 30 days in and everything was fine, as usual. I think it's most likely a sugar issue because I just don't eat regularly. I really never have, even before I started drinking. So this is fun.
I am trying to eat something small (4 or 5 bites) at least every hour but I am terrible at it. I'm just not hungry but my body is starving. I WANT to eat and feel better but it's making me nauseous. Yes, I tried cannabis for appetite. I quit getting the munchies from that back when I was a teenager.
Reading this brings up some memories/feelings for me of when I went through it 10-11 years ago, getting the papers was very emotional for sure…I didn’t anticipate the impact that would have, but I remember it all very vividly. I ended up not going to work that day, I just needed to mourn. So yeah, very normal to experience those kinds of feelings as your counselor said. But I’m glad you’re in a good place now, things always improve with time and important to keep pushing forward.Time for a check in. Nearing the end of this divorcing/selling the family home road. Working on final tweaks to the divorce decree (agreed, thankfully, unless she throws me a last minute curve ball). I had the help of another attorney to help me with the papers as that is only smart, and my soon to be ex has had it reviewed by her attorney. Just putting in some last 4's of accounts and making it clear that the court has continuing jurisdiction over the house until fully sold and proceeds divided, as the house is under contract, but not closed yet. So facing some general anxiety over this, which I understand is normal. Based on my experience in my law practice, beyond what others and my counselor have said, it is pretty normal to have some emotions when the papers get to be final, even if the decision was made over a year ago and we are moving on. Also, the house sold, which is good, but not quite for what we wanted due to interest rates and people now being pickier rather than in bidding wars if we had got on the market half a year earlier. But still pretty good. So, gearing up today to make those final revisions, get the papers through, and walk on.
Mollie, who I introduced you all to above, has been through it and been really supportive and understanding. I have tried not to burden her with any old ex stuff, but she has wanted to be supportive and has been good counsel. And things between us are amazing. So that is really nice. Will be nice to put the old business to bed and restore full focus to moving forward.
Onward!!
Thank you!Reading this brings up some memories/feelings for me of when I went through it 10-11 years ago, getting the papers was very emotional for sure…I didn’t anticipate the impact that would have, but I remember it all very vividly. I ended up not going to work that day, I just needed to mourn. So yeah, very normal to experience those kinds of feelings as your counselor said. But I’m glad you’re in a good place now, things always improve with time and important to keep pushing forward.
And mojo to you @MonkeyZero, I inexplicably lost 50 pounds in a few months’ time a few years back and it was scary. I gained it all back eventually, thankfully.