VoidTerraFirma
Live to wine
I find Capybara vids helpful. This one in particular.
Last night I had Jersey Mike's for dinner, and it made me feel like a piece of shit
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Chad
Slender Hobbit
This may not help, but you are 39 with nothing tying you down. Take some time and figure out what you want to do and where you want to be and get there.
I'm stuck where I am, for now, 2 kids in high school, so I can't just pack up and move or switch careers. What I wouldn't give to be able to get out of IT and move somewhere warm right now. At least in 2 years, I can move to somewhere warm, but will probably be stuck in IT until the kids are out of college.
smurfco
Meatus McPrepuce
Thanks for the feedback all. I know how to cook, I am just filled with absolutely zero motivation or energy. It takes everything I've got just to get my job work done every day. After I'm done working the last thing I want to do is more work aka cooking. So I get some pig shit delivered and gulp it down like a slob. I never leave the apartment because where is there to go? But I should start taking walks again, that is good advice. All of this is good advice. I just need to somehow find the energy or the will power or whatever it is that normal people use to get these basic simple things done. To me they seem monumental, gargantuan looming tasks. When I can barely keep my head up for a full workday.
Chicken Man
Kick Henry Jackassowski
No one's ever felt good after eating a Philly cheese steak. No one who feels good would order one in the first place. We eat Philly cheese steaks to punish ourselves.
Get a slow cooker. You chuck stuff in it, turn on and in 6 hours it's done.
There's better ways to make better meals but apart from microwave food, you won't get much easier plus it makes plenty so you can cook once and it'll day you 2 or 3 dinners / lunches.
DdBob
Dogue in teh desert
He is outside in the sunshine and fresh air though
DdBob
Dogue in teh desert
in regards to the OP though...remember all the shit we have now is just shit...were all gonna die and when we do none of us will have "anything to show for it"....also remember that you;'re in NYC and you've made it on your own (roof over yer head) and if you can make it thewre then you can make it anywhere
dmn23
Duller than cardboard
Speaking as someone who has struggled with this stuff all of my adult life, I will reiterate the importance of exercise, diet, and medication.
In the pre-COVID world it was much easier to head down to the gym every afternoon; it's much more challenging to find alternatives now. I ended buying a stationary trainer and I try to use it with some regularity, but some days are tougher than others.
You have the good fortune of being young enough to not have grown up in a world where mental health issues and medication were stigmatized as severely as they were for some of the older guys here. Avail yourself of what's out there. My first script was for Wellbutrin and that's all I've ever taken. It works surprisingly well with almost zero side effects — it just sort of levels everything out. It's worth at least having the conversation with your PCP.
I live alone so I understand the trap of fast food. It's a tough one. All I can say is diet can make a profound difference so maybe focus on that.
Yabba's comment about the forum is on point. You guys are largely idiots but you're my crew and I need this community. I'm thankful for it.
The last thing I'd suggest is to bury yourself in a creative project of some kind. I know you record regularly, right? That sort of brain adjustment that goes with the creative process and the accompanying problem-solving can trigger all sorts of happy receptors.
This shit is hard, ese, but stay the course and make it a priority.
In the pre-COVID world it was much easier to head down to the gym every afternoon; it's much more challenging to find alternatives now. I ended buying a stationary trainer and I try to use it with some regularity, but some days are tougher than others.
You have the good fortune of being young enough to not have grown up in a world where mental health issues and medication were stigmatized as severely as they were for some of the older guys here. Avail yourself of what's out there. My first script was for Wellbutrin and that's all I've ever taken. It works surprisingly well with almost zero side effects — it just sort of levels everything out. It's worth at least having the conversation with your PCP.
I live alone so I understand the trap of fast food. It's a tough one. All I can say is diet can make a profound difference so maybe focus on that.
Yabba's comment about the forum is on point. You guys are largely idiots but you're my crew and I need this community. I'm thankful for it.
The last thing I'd suggest is to bury yourself in a creative project of some kind. I know you record regularly, right? That sort of brain adjustment that goes with the creative process and the accompanying problem-solving can trigger all sorts of happy receptors.
This shit is hard, ese, but stay the course and make it a priority.
rickenvox
Animal Psychic
I think all of your problems stem from ordering the wrong sandwich at Jersey Mike's. Get the Italian, Mike's style. It won't help you lose weight, but the freshness of the ingredients are very positive and life affirming. Then go build a birdhouse.
rickenvox
Animal Psychic
that doesn't make any sense. We will have shit to show for it.
Lerxst
spaghetti and blankets
There are some new meal in a box plans that do all the prep work too so all you have to do is finish it off on the stove or oven. You pay for that convenience but a couple nights a week you could be eating fresh healthy meals with little to no fuss.
yabba
Weird Pick Butt Person
Just in case it's helpful to hear; I'm again right there with you. The problem is not coming up with ideas for helpful or even fun stuff to do, it's getting the energy/motivation for ANYTHING beyond just sort of mostly/barely keeping yourself alive. Just the basic, baseline stuff (cooking, cleaning, showering, doing the laundry, etc takes up pretty much all available bandwidth (and a lot of that "basic" stuff becomes VERY optional). This is definitely where the professional/pharmacological (professionally prescribed/monitored) help is huge. Also for me at least, the dog has been surprisingly helpful - it's yet another enormous pile of energy/time/motivation-consuming responsibilities, but it's much easier to motivate to do stuff for a dog than it is to do stuff for myself (like a lot of people, I suspect), and then I get the helpful benefits of going for a walk, etc even if the original motivation to do it was for him.
yabba
Weird Pick Butt Person
yes yes yes to all of this!
Bones McHorror
bones
Have you thought about becoming The Joker yet?
Peen Simmons
Let’s Get Obtuse!
I’ve do my own dance with the black dog, but fortunately/unfortunately I never get to the just sit there and look at the ceiling stage. I tend to cope by over scheduling and overcommitting. Making commitments I am not certain I can uphold and then using the self-loathing prompted by consideration of failure as a mania-inducing coping strategy. I do not recommend this as a lifestyle, but maybe in very small doses it could prove helpful...committing to giving blood or doing a charity thing one night a couple weeks out. Get a fish or small pet you have to take care of. Promise someone you’ll knit them a hat by a certain date. Just kinda trick yourself into activity.
And in general, I advocate against television if you’re at all inclined towards mood or motivation issues.
And in general, I advocate against television if you’re at all inclined towards mood or motivation issues.
Jbird
Kick Henry Jackassowski
A snowy owl was spotted in Central Park for the first time since 1890.
https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/snowy-owl-makes-rare-visit-to-central-park/2852897/?amp
Rumor has it the owl was only wanting a sub from Jersey Mike's
https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/snowy-owl-makes-rare-visit-to-central-park/2852897/?amp
Rumor has it the owl was only wanting a sub from Jersey Mike's
Peen Simmons
Let’s Get Obtuse!
Nice work. That’s the owl that fucked smurfco’s old lady in the back of Trans Am outside a Whitesnake concert on 1989–the inciting incident that lead to duder’s crippling, sandwich-based depression.
Why are you such a thoughtless turd?!?
Lerxst
spaghetti and blankets
Ever since my Dad passed away, my Mom hasn't really been motivated to cook for one person and she hasn't been into meal planning and getting all the ingredients together. I periodically get her a gift card to one of those services and she has been super pleased with the meals and how easy it has been.