so in the end (for now) i've ordered a JHS Little Black Amp Box. basically a variable resistor that goes in the effects loop and allows you do drive the preamp section as hard as you want but then limit the signal going to the power amp section, so as not to get yourself evicted by the neighbors. i got it for $45 at amazon, so i don't think i'm loosing too much if it doesn't work out the way i hope.
i kinda gave up on the micro amp idea because:
1) they're all too loud for an apartment when you get to that "almost break up" volume, even the 1 watters are LOUD.
2) the tone and low end i get with the Blues Deluxe and the EVM-12 in it are NOT gonna be matched with a little low watt amp, at least that's what i've heard listening/watching tons of youtube reviews of a bunch of the micro amps.
so, i figure let's see how this works. and a plus is that i can still use the black box on stage by simply allowing more signal to the power amp and still get a little breakup in the pre section. maybe i'm wrong. we'll see. here's a pic.