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Fucktangular
I'm not big on the shame thing either. I can be quite effective without ruining their lives among their peers.
When my sister-in-law had problems with her daughter not getting out of bed and dressed in time for school (she was in 1st or 2nd grade), she simply put her in the car still in her jammies with bed head. The daughter started getting scared and desperate as they got close to school and promised to be ready every morning. Mom pulled in the drive and parked, handing the girl her clothes she hid and let her dress in the car.
The problem never happened again and the girl wasn't shamed, either.
Each kid is different with different needs and motivators.