He's 9 years older than Mrs. P, so being young isn't the culprit. (Sorry, Paula)
The hardest part is that he calls us to vent, and seems to ask for help, and we give it, but then he acts like we're against him.
And he makes horrible decisions, both personally and financially (and they are most often intertwined).
I really do think that he just thinks he's supposed to be poor and miserable. When he lived with us, he spent 6 months playing video games and wondering why he didn't have a job or any friends. We finally had to tell him to get out of the house, or "get out of the house".
He chose to "get out of the house".
I just don't know how to help him.